The argument has come and gone since Dan chose his groomsmen a few months ago, but as the bride and the oldest in my family, I just can’t help the prickle of annoyance and guilt that appeared after he chose an an old roommate whom has hasn’t spoken to or seen in ages over my brother, whom I adore. The two were roommates in college for 2 years, sure, but my brother has been my brother for 21 years and he will be his brother-in-law for the unforeseeable future. The groomsman doesn’t call, barely emails, never sounds remotely interested in the position he’s been given. Even though he lives in town, he’ll probably show up at the wedding and never come back into our lives again. And that doesn’t sound like the sort of friend who should be a groomsman. We worked really hard to keep the invitations to close friends and family, and it just seems ironic that one of the groomsmen doesn’t feel like either of those. After all, I’d rather have someone up there who actually cares about us than some long-absent roommate, and I know my brother would care.

Ugh. It breaks my heart.

So am I just being a bridezilla or is this a sort of big mistake on Dan’s part?